how do you get the point across that you don't want to hang out with a friend/s?

i currently have a friend who i don't really want to hang out with any more. i haven't seen him for a few months but this is because i've been avoiding him. i don't know how to get it across that i am not interested in socialising with him any more.

this may sound harsh but i just don't have anything in common with him any more. we have known each other since we were about 8/9 years old, but over the last 3-4 years our common interests aren't the same and we are at different stages in life now.

he has a wife, a baby, and has his own place. we are both 24 and i have gone back to education, whereas he is working full time to provide. the thing is he is the kind of person to persistently keep on calling and seeing what's happened to me.

i could not even hang out with him any more as i have nothing to talk with him about. the conversation was forced in the past, so it's kind of pointless to either bother socialising. i can't just say "i don't want to see you any more, mate" because it's too direct and harsh. but at the same time, it's making things awkward because i have to keep avoiding him or his family in case they tell me that he wants to see me.

what do i do?

what would you do in my situation?

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ahh ****! sorry guys. i posted in wrong place. do i move it or do the admin?

 

can someone delete this and i'll post it in lounge

thanks

 

no. he has always been quite selfish, but only recently he's been boring. like i said our lives are totally different now and i have grown apart from him. it's nothing to do with not being a true friend. people grow apart, it's a part of life.

i am sure you don't have friends now that you've always had. what is the point of me socialising with him if we do nothing but the same stuff and talk about nothing different? like i said he has a family now, i don't.

he has only ever been in contact when HE felt like doing so. that is the selfish part of him. although we have known each other for a long time, he's never been a friend i would 100% trust. it's just the way it is i guess. i have another friend who i've known for about 6 years and i believe i can 100% trust him. i don't know why but it's just the way i feel.

 

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