Anyone noticed that boxers seem to get along and help each other out, whereas teammates in other sports seem to have a more competitive mindset? For example...in high school I played soccer and basketball. Not a season went by without guys fighting each other, quitting the team, and just generally being angry at each other all the time. Lots of **** talking about who's better than who, etc. In boxing, it's like everyone's in it together, which is weird, because it's an individual sport where we punch our teammates/training partners in the face and try to hurt them. I'll be the first to admit I'm not a great boxer, but I don't have other boxers coming up to me telling me I suck. I think it's down to players fighting for the spotlight with each other. In boxing you are automatically given the spotlight. It's more of a responsibility and a challenge than a reward. You're stuck in there by yourself with everyone's eyes on you, now let's see what you do with it. Random observation over. Now the point: Can this be a bad thing? Going back the the soccer and basketball example, the competition within my teams made me a better player. Eventually I got to the point where I was good enough to be getting awards in tournaments and such, captain, mvp, etc. But I worked my ass off obsessively to do it. And I strongly doubt I would have without all the pressure to...beat my teammates. This didn't occur to me until a few days ago when my cousin wanted to do a round with me (actually he wanted to take a free shot at my face, but I talked him into letting me defend myself and hit him in the body). Later on in the day we're fighting about something or other and he comes out with "Yeah, well you're not ever gonna be that good at boxing because...you're just not good at it." Now, I take that with a grain of salt but it got me thinking. I used to hear **** like that about other sports and it PISSED ME OFF. That's what got me working. I hadn't ever heard that in boxing. All I hear in boxing is positive reinforcement. Are we too nice to each other in the gym?
I agree that boxers are usually very respectful and that's one of the best things about the sport, however I disagree with your second point. After a tough fight/spar you know better than anybody how you performed. If I have performed badly, I feel like ****. This feeling makes me strive to be better, because I hate the feeling of failure. That is where my motivation comes from. Some high school smack talk about who is better has no place in a boxing gym. Everyone takes a beating sometime, if you talk **** it will come quicker.
2 reasons for this: 1) Boxing/combat sport is a primal sport, all other sports are just a metaphor. They invented ball's to throw around so we dont have to hurt each other in order prove who is the best, whereas back in the tribal days we just fought. Just like an argument can lead to a fight. A sport can lead to an argument and then into a fight. A fight can lead to a...oh, you already fought. 2) In team sports, you can blame your team mates for not performing well, they did this, that whatever, they can blame you and you can say, no I did this that etc. In boxing, you and the other guy know exactly where you stand, no words need to be said, you either got beat up or you didn't. In team sports you need to prove yourself to your team, you can do this by either putting them down to raise you up, or raising yourself up to put em down...in 1v1 you only need to prove something to yourself. I think its a good thing, as for pushing yourself...I dont know about you but getting beat up by someone I should beat motivates me far more than someone saying I'm ****.
Good points. Is it normal to beat yourself up over getting beaten up like two of you have mentioned? I usually figure if I take a beating it's because the other guy is better than me, I'll just have to get better. Not something that makes me angry or anything. Maybe I have to work on motivating myself better.
Depends who I get beat by. If its someone far more experienced than me, then I measure my success based on how well I did against him in a losing effort. If its someone who has only trained a year and for example I trained 3 years, then I would be annoyed with myself, I'll think either I'm not as naturally talented therefore may quit or simply work harder, or I'll think I havent trained as hard as he did therefore need to work much harder. Its not even about winning or losing for me, its about how well I did relative to my opponent. Winning and barely getting by a novice would surely discourage me I guess. I guess you will know where you are coming short, whether its your lack of proper training, your lack of talent and its up to you how you deal with it.
I think boxers gain more respect with people the spar with or box. I've felt this with my competition and sparring partners in the past
:thumbsup this exactly. I love the friendly nature of my boxing gym, there is no competition and macho attitude problems, everyone treats everyone with respect. I sparred a few days ago and honestly got whooped pretty good by a guy much smaller than me (though far more experienced). Afterwards it wasn't him trash talking me about how I could barely land on him, he was friendly and congratulatory on the improvements I had made. I'll take this over the attitude and **** I dealt with back when I played football, it drove me away from team sports.
