Losing a fight!

Different things work for different people. Although I really don't agree with "making someone feel like a piece of ****"....it sounds as though it might have worked as you are "hungry to redeem yourself". If possible, I'd try to find out if anyone got a video of your bout. To me, that's the BEST way to see your own mistakes. We used to tape our sparring (and that was not all that easy in the "old days") and bouts. And watch them over and over and over, etc.

 

He put it nicely here, but I also lost my first fight. Then I won my next/last four. My trainer was the womens WBO middleweight belt holder and she lost her first like 6. So yea dont get discouraged man. Learn from it.

 

First of all, I don´t believe in making the boxer feel like **** after he/she lost a fight, the boxer allready feel bad, as a trainer, try to be supportive directly afterworlds, "okay we didn´t work as planned, but you did that and that good etc... etc" I think it´s good to say "we" when the boxer loose, it sort of lay a little blame on the trainer as well, it might easy up the thing for the boxer. Then after a couple of days when we get back in the gym, then we go through exactly what went wrong and start to work on those things. It´s no use shouting and acting like a fool against someone that allready feel bad, you shouldn´t do that against anyone. As a trainer you are there to help and develop your fighter, not break them down, in my opinion that sort of trainers shouldn´t be in the game.
You will win your next fight
All the best
The Predator

 

Maybe you just had an offnight. We all get them. Look at Oscar DeLaHoya!

 

It Happens so what, Ive been on the Floor that many times Ive got a Cauliflower Arse :hi:

 

Normal or not, I think it´s wrong, a trainer is there to support, protect and help his boxer in any way. it´s no help having someone shout and point out that you did this or that wrong.
Like I wrote before, you lost the fight, you don´t need to hear directly after the fight what you did wrong, you allready know something went wrong oterwise you shouldn´t have lost.
trainers that act that way is, in my opinion, not good for their boxers. Perhaps it would be better that the trainer went in to the ring himself and did everything right cause i´m sure he never lost a fight in his whole life.
Seriously, I understand that you like your trainer, but a trainer has no right to act that way. it doesn´t help you or any other fighter.
keep up the good work, let me know how your next fight goes.
The Predator

 

It motivated me a lot, but I felt good about the fight win or lose. Learned a great deal from it, and if it wasn't for an ankle injury I would have fought again by now.

 

Sometimes it does not mean he thinks you're doing bad, it may mean that he simply expects more of you. I know a guy who always pointed out my bad sides, and complimented some others. When I asked him why he told me that was unintentional, he simply held me to higher standards.

Have you confronted him?

 

You win some, you lose some. As long as you do your best you can always hold your head up; just focus on the things that you need to improve on next time. Name of the game in the amateurs.

 

As a coach, and a retired fighter, I know what its like from both sides of the fence. I tend to judge each situation on its own merits. Sometimes, you might be overmatched, try your best and lose, in this case a bollocking does nobody any good. If one of my guys simply has an off night, which we all do from time to time, I use the loss as a motivating factor in their training for their next fight. If my fighter loses by fightning like a dickhead, as far as i'm concerned he's wasting my time, and i'll let him know it in no uncertain terms.

I push my fighters hard, and although I don't expect them to win every fight, I do expect them to follow my instuctions as best they can - if they lose even though they followed my instructions, I view that as a loss for me, rather than them.

The one thing that I simply will not tolerate is someone who completely disregards everything that I work very hard to instill in them. If someone is going to fight their own fight, then they should tell me that right from the start of training, atleast that way, I can dedicate my time to someone else who is prepared to listen and learn.

By nature, I am quite an impatient person, so I have a simple system. The first time one of my fighters goes there own way in a fight, i'll pull them to one side afterwards and leave them in no uncertain terms that I won't accept it again. It is then forgotten about and we move on. If however, it happens again, I tell them to find another gym as I won't train them any more.