Hi everyone. One of my best fighters are very close to get in to the national team but he told me that he is very tired and almost doesn´t want it no more. he´s tensed on training and stops every now and then. He told me that he aint gonna stop boxing but that he don´t have that feeling for it right now. Have you or any of your fighters had the same feeling and what can I do as a trainer to help him over this. When you are that close to the national team I think it would be such a loss to stop now. All the best The Predator
give him a few days off to relax and clear his mind, when he comes back have a talk and weigh the pro's and con's of everything. no point in talking to the kid now if he's mentally drained...
^^^ let him have a week off or so have a chat with him, if his mind aint in the right place he no use to anyone, u gotta want it or you wont get it in boxing.
Hi predator, I know exactly what your fighter is feeling cause im going through the same feeling right now, although im far from your fighters level i just cant be bothered with boxing anymore, i just dont have the same feeling of exitement and joy from boxing that i had when i first strted, training has become an obligation rather than an enjoyement i get really bored of training and sparring and i really dont want to fight i just dont see the point , im going to give myself a week to think about things and see after that ill make a decision, in the case of your boxer and im just talking about myself here, i think the best thing you can do is let him breath and make his own mind up, if you try and force him you might push him away.
I´m sorry to hear that you feel that way, I´ve been there my self sometimes during the years but not as bad, I always came back. You are right and I never gonna push him, it´s his choice. We have talked a lot and I told him to take a couple of weeks of and then see if it feels better, but he didn´t want that, he said that sometimes it feels better to just talk about it. I only hope that it will work out cause he´s so damn good! I also hope that you will find the motivation again. Who knows you might be a worldchampion in the future, if you stop now we never gonna know. Keep it up! Thanks for your reply. The Predator
Could be lots of things. Maybe he's distracted. Does he have a (new) girlfriend. That usually comes with a priority shift. Can't do nothing about that. Or maybe he's stressed. Is he still in school, or does he have a job? Sometimes doing a sport outside of your "regular" life can really be a burden. Worst case scenario: he has something like burnout syndrome. Maybe he can't cope with the pressure, real or self applied. He doesn't want to fail you, his parents, his gym, his friends and of course himself. That can lead to fatigue. I don't know what you could do about this, but maybe seeing a therapist would help.
Lack of motivation with people these days seem almost as common as humans breathing in oxygen... I'm only 22, but have worked out since I was about 14. It amazes me how people lack motivation, how they waste there gifts in life/ how they waste there talents, how they let so many things interfere with there personal goals, etc. I've started becoming a pretty religious person anymore, and beleive very strongly in using your gifts. Me, for instance I've discovered that I'm a very good trainer (even at 22) when it comes to boxing/ lifting/ martial arts. I've always been a bright person, and very understanding, but honestly...I use to be a little greedy like most people. I lifted by myself, I had the hunger to be BETTER than everybody else, and didn't want to show people how to get better than me. NOW, I still love to fight, love to train, but love even more to give back to others what I have received. I'm only about 5'6, and 165...Pretty strong, pretty skilled, etc. I started training a guy who is like 6'1, 220 of SOLID muscle. After just 2 hours with this guy, I spar with him, and told him "KEEP ME OFF YOU NOW." and he did so wonderfully. In a couple of months I could get to where I COULD NOT handle this guy, but don't care. IF he gets good, I was a part of him getting good..Even if he dominates me. As for your fighter..It's just something that happens. You can *TRY* to talk to him, but honestly it probably won't help. Explain to him that sometimes in life you have gifts, and you must use them while you still can. That one day you may grow up, and regret putting all that work in to something, and acheiving NOTHING. If that's something he can look in the future, and live with then he simply doesn't want to do it, and find your next fighter. Most of the time this is the reason I usually workout by myself. I can't find many people that are dedicated like I am, but it's understandable. Best of luck to you, but don't put to much in to it. My first trainer was 81 years old, and wanted nothing but to make a pro fighter. I was the last guy he trained, but honestly didn't want to compete as fast as he wanted me to. Just wasn't ready. I don't really regret never going amatuers (hell, I still could really), but feeling the way I feel now...Seeing boxing as more of a sport/ fun than OMG I GOTTA WIN!!! I wouldn't mind..
Happened to me just when I was start to become a decent boxer. I pretty much just stopped coming one day and didnt miss it to be honest it had got boring to me I craved something different which was MMA now im doing that and enjoy it. If I lose motivation in that to then I would know maybe combat sports aint for me.
well i just felt like updating a few people on what ive been going through, I just took a week off training, just sleeping, eating and slouching on my couch, and i still have problems getting my motivation back, the worst thing is ive got a fight in a week and a half and the last thing i want to do is fight( i might have to pull out...i dont want to get battered because my heart aint in the right place), i think i overtrained way too much in the last month and a half (3 hours training a day, everyday and not eating enough in comparaison to the exercise i was putting in) which led me to be burnt out, not just physically(constant cramps, no energy) but also mentaly, which has led me to feel depressed and tired all the time its like i spent all my energy into training but now i dont see the point its a very odd feeling...im almost scared to show my face in the gym for fear of the reaction im going to get from my trainers....but at the end of the day i do boxing for myself and not for others, i really hope that my hunger and motivation will comeback, but as a late starter in the game (started at 24, 25 now) i have alot of other things going on in my life work, ect...that just add to the stress of fighting and i think that the stress of 9 hours of work a day +3,30 hours training and added to that all the other crap you have to do in a day.... meant that at the end i ws sleeping 5 hours a night and that ****ed me up...anyway im going back to the gym tonight to have a chat with my trainer and see what he thinks... As someone mentioned earlier in boxing you really need to want to do well and achieve but boxing should also be fun...i guess its a question of balance as it is with most things.....
