OK Ive stopped laughing ,,,seriously there are good boxers that can control there power against not so good boxers, you will gain there respect helping them to get better while you are still working on your moves with faster lighter punches then there is the brawler ,slugger who is lacking on boxing intelligence ,but thats not a bad thing its just there style,,just try to jab is face of hes not meaning to hit you hard its just there style simply say to your sparring partner with a big grin on your face before you spar,,,if you hit me hard i will hit you hard ,,make it kind of a joke ,,but its not